Anyone who has been in a long-term relationship knows that it’s not always lovey-dovey and pink. A relationship requires effort, a lot of sacrifices, and compromises. Nevertheless, there are situations where you may need the help of a professional to salvage what you both share.
There is no shame in going to couples counseling. It is wise to admit that some things are out of your “expertise” But how do you know when your effort is not enough anymore? Below, you are going to find a few telltale times that you and your partner need to seek professional therapists’ help.
1.You and Your Partner Have Bad Communication Habits
Communication is often the key to a healthy and happy relationship. However, some couples reach a point where they don’t know how to communicate as well as they used to before. Lack of proper communication results from a number of reasons.There could be a lot of stress in your lives, or perhaps you created some distance, one of you is running out of love, etc. Whatever the reason, if you can’t communicate efficiently enough, it is best to admit that there is an issue in the relationship and consult a specialist. Otherwise, you will sink in this problem even further, which can lead the affair to the worst.
2. You Engage In Conflicts More Often
All couples go through a rough patch at one point or another. It’s completely normal. But if you get to a never-ending series of conflicts, it’s a sign that you two need some help. Relationship disputes, if unresolved, tend to escalate. If you both allow that to happen, your relationship can be in trouble. A couple’s therapist can teach you how to put off the fires even before they start.
3. You Are Feeling Lonely
People in relationships can feel lonely too. For whatever reason, you feel emotionally distant, and that leads to a nasty feeling of loneliness. Your partner cannot anticipate your feelings, or perhaps he/she doesn’t fully understand what is going on with you. A therapist can easily explain that and teach you how to communicate your feelings to each other.You will also be advised on what to do whenever you feel lonely to rekindle back the love sparks.
4. You Face Trust/Commitment Issues
Do you feel like you cannot rely on your partner? Or perhaps you feel like your partner puts his/her well being before yours? In some cases, it may be challenging to find out precisely why that is. In others, it’s pretty obvious, but that’s another story.
A therapist can help you identify the source of your mistrust and assist you both in facing the issue dead in the face. You may be advised to perform some trust exercises or go through whatever strategy the therapist thinks is best. But whatever you do, the lack of trust is a serious issue, and you should never ignore it.
5. Both You And Your Partner No Longer Engage In Sexual Intimacy
Lack of sex in a relationship is an issue that is as old as time. However, in this day and age, people no longer ignore it and label it as “it is what it is.” Admittedly, there are reasons why the two of you have a difficult time engaging in sex. Whatever the reason, the lack of intimacy can be severe. For one thing, it can lead to a boatload of frustration and resentment. You don’t have to be a professional to know that lack of sex does no good than harm to any relationship.
The couples counseling can help you both identify the reasons behind your lack of intimacy and ways to overcome them.
6. The Three A’s (Abuse, Affairs And Addictions)
As people, we are far from perfect. We all make mistakes. As long as you admit that you have a problem and want to solve it, your relationship is not necessarily doomed. I know that it’s hard for some people to get over affairs, for instance. But guess what? Some couples make it work.
Of course, recovery after one of the three A’s is not easy. It can take years of couples counseling. None of the issues in this category is easy to overcome. However, if you feel like your relationship is still worth saving, you should give therapy a try.
The list of signs that tell you that you should go to couples counseling doesn’t stop here. It varies from couple to couple. However, my recommendation is that you seek professional help whenever you think it’s necessary.